“Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t, you’re right.” Henry Ford
January is that wonderful time of the year when most of us make our New Year’s resolutions and vow to do everything from spend more time with friends to quit smoking. But what tops the list for many is losing weight and getting in shape. Statistics show that the majority of adults over 20 years of age are overweight so it’s easy to understand why so many want to lose the bulge.
Just last week I was watching television when a commercial came on for a popular weight loss program. The ad touted “you are what you eat.” I don’t disagree with this phrase as I do believe that the food we eat definitely affects our health and wellbeing. However, as people look to a better 2014, I wish they would also remember something far more important and that is “you are how you think.”
Why is it more important? How you think will determine whether or not you will achieve those resolutions in the first place. I recently read an article in Mail Online which stated that by January 9th most people give up their New Year’s resolutions. And the number one reason most people give up is fear.
Too often we make resolutions for the wrong reason—not because we want to but because we feel we should. We also set the stakes too high and expect too much too soon. So when we wake up on January 1st and are not able to give up smoking or stick to that belt-tightening diet, we quickly give up because we tell ourselves we just can’t do it and are afraid to fail.
As a motivational speaker and the author of Make Up Your Mind to Be Happy, I often coach people on the importance of positive thinking. I remember a woman who wanted to know if being a positive thinker means you are happy 100 percent of the time. I quickly replied, “No,” and explained that this was not even possible.
Positive thinking does not erase the negatives in our lives. The negatives are still very much there but positive thinking does involve making the most out of a bad situation. It means approaching life with a positive outlook. It means recognizing the best in people and appreciating the good in everything, including you.
How you think effects every little thing in your life. It shapes who you are as a person. It determines whether you will succeed or fail, whether you will laugh or cry and, yes, whether or not you will have the confidence and the willpower to achieve those New Year’s resolutions in 2014.
While it is true that what we eat affects our body, it is also true that our way of thinking has a profound impact on what happens inside our body as well. Repressing and harboring negative thoughts and feelings can lead to stress, back pain and high blood pressure.
One of my favorite quotes is by Abraham Lincoln who said, “Most folks are as happy as they make up their minds to be.” Happiness lies within you. If you take the time to look hard enough, you will see the positive in every situation.
You are how you think. Focus on the positive and then reap the rewards as the positive begins to manifest around you. Happy 2014!