“We are not our bodies, our possessions, or our careers. Who we are is Divine love and that is infinite.”
Dr. Wayne Dyer once said beautiful thoughts build a beautiful soul. If you need any proof of these words, just look at his life. The best-selling author of over 30 books and self-help mogul died on August 30, 2015 at his home in Maui, Hawaii of a heart-attack at the age of 75. A long-time admirer of both his books and his amazing wisdom, I am saddened by his death. It is comforting to know, however, that Dyer knew death was but a transition and did not fear it.
“Choose to see death as simply removing a garment or moving from one room to another . . . it’s merely a transition,” he said. He also believed as do I that we are infinite beings. In other words, we always were and we always will be. God did not put us all here to live and then die. “Eternity is now,” noted Dyer. “Right now, right here, you’re an infinite being. Once you get past the fear of death as an end, you merge with the infinite and feel the comfort and relief that this realization brings.”
Although I know Dyer is enjoying his next adventure, I will surely miss his physical presence. His wisdom, however, will forever live on. He has touched millions of souls and changed countless lives. He understood and taught that we are all here for a reason; every life serves a purpose. It’s obvious that his purpose was to enlighten and help others…a task he more than accomplished.
But Dyer was clear that it’s not about what we do. What we do, does not define us. Rather it’s about how our actions affect others. He explained it well when he said, “Don’t equate your self-worth with how well you do things in life. You aren’t what you do. If you are what you do, then when you don’t do…you aren’t.”
His death is actually a testament to these very words. Dyer’s physical presence may be gone, but he still is. His presence is still felt around the globe. He wasn’t what he did. He was all the differences that he made. He was all the lives that he touched. He was the love that he shared—a love that can still be felt and can never be extinguished.
It’s about who you are on the inside, not your list of accomplishments or things earned. “When you squeeze out an orange, orange comes out because that’s what’s inside. When you’re squeezed, what comes out is what’s inside.”
In honor of Dr. Wayne Dyer, I wanted to share some of my favorite quotes by him. These include:
- “If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.”
- “I cannot always control what goes on outside. But I can always control what goes on inside.”
- “When you dance, your purpose is not to get to a certain place on the floor. It’s to enjoy each step along the way.”
- “Begin to see yourself as a soul with a body rather than a body with a soul.”
- “Loving people live in a loving world. Hostile people live in a hostile world. Same world.”
- “You’ll see it when you believe it.”
- “Our loves are a sum total of the choices we have made.”
- “Simply put, you believe that things or people make you unhappy, but this is not accurate. You make yourself unhappy.”
- “The highest form of ignorance is when you reject something you don’t know anything about.”
- “The last suit you wear, you don’t need any pockets.”
Dyer grew up in a series of foster homes. His father, an alcoholic, left the family when he was just 3 years old. Things were difficult for his family to be sure. But as we can all see by the incredible life he lived and the amazing man he was, he was not a victim of his circumstances. No one is.
We are only the victim of our mind. We are only the victim of our thoughts—both positive and negative. “It is impossible for you to be angry and laugh at the same time,” he once said. “Anger and laughter are mutually exclusive and you have the power to choose either.”
In one of his final interviews with James Altucher, he reminded us of the number one regret of the dying from Bronnie Ware’s popular book, The Top Five Regrets of the Dying: “I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.” Dyer said that’s about the essence of it all. He clearly didn’t have this deathbed regret. And neither should we.