I hope that in this year to come, you make mistakes. Because if you are making mistakes, then you are making new things, trying new things, learning, living, pushing yourself, changing yourself, changing your world. You’re doing things you’ve never done before, and more importantly, you’re doing something. Neil Gaiman
The Disney cable network decided to offer a free month of movies. Yesterday, my family and I opted to watch the Disney classic Aladdin. In the 1992 film, a street urchin named Aladdin happens to meet a beautiful girl (Jasmine) who has run away from home. The two become fast friends and fall in love. But when Aladdin realizes that Jasmine is actually a princess in disguise he understands that he is not worthy of her.
When Aladdin later comes in contact with a magic lamp, he is told by a Genie that he has three wishes. Thinking it over, Aladdin’s first wish is to be made a prince so he can then marry Princess Jasmine. But in the end, Aladdin’s true identity is exposed.
The Genie then tells Aladdin that he has one final wish left and can be made a prince once again in order to marry the princess. But Aladdin decides to keep his promise and free the Genie with his third wish instead feeling that he cannot continue to pretend to be someone he’s not, not even for the love of his life.
This movie may be a Disney animated classic. But it’s not only legendary for the story. More importantly, it’s legendary for its simple, yet timeless message. Always be who you are. In the end, as in the movie, true love will prevail.
But if the message is simple why is it so hard for us to be true to ourselves? There are several reasons. For starters, maybe you are in denial and really don’t know who you are and what you want. Maybe you are still trying to find yourself.
As in the case of Aladdin, most times we deny who we are in favor of acceptance. Think about it. How many times have you denied who you are, how many times have you buried your true feelings deep within in order to satisfy or please someone else? How many times have you kept quiet for fear of being ridiculed?
Don Miguel Ruiz, author of The Four Agreements, said it perfectly when he noted, “Death is not the biggest fear we have; our biggest fear is taking the risk to be alive—the risk to be alive and express what we really are.”
We all crave acceptance. We all want to fit in. But we shouldn’t have to lose ourselves in order to get there. In a society that is constantly trying to make us something we’re not, it has become increasingly difficult to be true to ourselves. For many, it’s a constant struggle.
Being who we are means having the courage to turn a deaf ear to what others expect of us and tuning into what we expect of ourselves. It means reaching within and being totally honest with ourselves. It means not only being aware of but also listening to our deepest desires and being true to our own personal values.
By the end of the movie, Aladdin’s three wishes are granted by the Genie. They are:
- Make me a prince.
- Save my life and
- I wish for your freedom.
Likewise, I wish for your freedom. The freedom to just be you.