“Everyone is psychic to some degree, and really successful paranormal investigators even if they do not realize it are using their own psychic ability to sense the environment.”
Trust is vital to all relationships. In fact, without trust there can be no relationship. Trust is the basis from which all relationships begin. This includes our relationship with spirit and our ability to communicate with the other side.
Recently, I was invited to participate in a spirit circle with Stuart and Dean James-Foy, two accomplished mediums from England. The event was hosted by leading paranormal expert Rosemary Ellen Guiley and psychic medium Karl Petry.
Spirit circles are basically small open or gallery type readings. The psychic medium draws on the collective energy of the group and there is no telling what can happen as I later found out. At the start, we were told to focus on someone we wanted to come through. My mind immediately went to my brother-in-law John.
On September 5, 2017, John passed from lung cancer. He smoked cigarettes and cigars for many years. My sister is really having a tough time and I hoped to bring her a message of comfort from her husband. Suddenly, I began to hear the tune to My Girl by the Temptations in my head.
My brother-in-law loved Motown music and this song always reminds me of him. Once when we were at my brother’s house, John began singing and dancing to My Girl. So while he was on his deathbed, I sang part of the lyrics to him as my sister-in-law joined in. Another time when I was alone with him in the hospital, I hummed the song to him. So it’s easy to see why this song is so significant.
However, as I heard the song in my head that night, I began to doubt what I was hearing. Trust involves believing in something you can’t see and with that often comes uncertainty.
Shortly after this, Stuart and Dean led us through a meditation exercise. To be perfectly honest, I wasn’t feeling well and didn’t think I would get anything. However, almost immediately I saw my brother in law. He was sitting on a large rock fishing as I sat next to him. He looked younger, thinner and content. We chatted as he fished always looking straight ahead. He never turned towards me so I never saw his face.
I felt like I was with John a long time but in reality, it could not have been more than a few minutes. When I snapped out of my meditative state, I noticed my husband John looking at me with this odd look on his face. “What happened?” he asked. I looked at him and whispered, “John. John is here.”
At that very same time, Stuart stood up in front of the crowd and asked if anyone had an experience that they wanted to share. The woman sitting directly behind me whom I never met before immediately raised her hand. “I don’t know why,” she told the crowd, “I smell cigarette smoke.”
I let out a loud gasp as the look of complete shock covered my face. My husband stared at me in disbelief. Noticing my reaction, Stuart asked me to tell everyone what was going on.
The week after my brother-in-law passed, I was bringing groceries into the kitchen and clearly sensed cigarette smoke. There were no windows opened as I had the air conditioning on. Also, no one in my household smokes cigarettes.
Clairscent is the ability to smell something associated with your deceased loved one. It can be anything that is associated with them. For instance, you may smell a certain perfume or flower. You can smell a food associated with them or even cigar or cigarette smoke.
I quickly yelled for my daughter Lia to come down the stairs. But by the time she did, the smell was gone. I told Lia, however, about the smell and explained that I felt this was a sign from her Uncle John.
A few days later, Lia told me that she was in the bathroom when the room suddenly filled with the smell of cigarettes. She told me she instantly knew it was her uncle.
Last month, my daughter participated in a parish fundraiser for the homeless. On this night, she slept on the sidewalk outside of our church with her sleeping bag.
The following morning, everyone partook in a mass inside the church. Lia went up to receive Holy Communion and then went back to her pew. She knelt down and closed her eyes as she prayed. As part of her prayers that morning, she spoke to my brother-in-law privately telling him how much she loved and missed him.
As she was talking to her uncle, her friend Meghan (kneeling next to her) tapped her on the shoulder interrupting her thoughts. “Lia,” she said, “Do you smell that? It smells like cigarette smoke.” Of course, there was no one smoking cigarettes inside the church.
Lia smiled knowing her Uncle John was with her and acknowledged his presence. Keep in mind that her friend Meghan did not know about our previous experiences with the scent of cigarette smoke. So why did Meghan smell the cigarette smoke at the exact time that Lia was telepathically speaking to her uncle? Going through Meghan, someone who had no knowledge of what happened, serves as a validation that it was really him.
Getting back to the spirit circle, this marked the fourth time my brother-in-lawpresented himself in this way. Once our loved ones know that we recognize and associate a sign as being from them, they will most often repeat it. As I shared my story that night, the crowd was equally stunned as we all witnessed yet another incredible validation from the spirit world.
My husband later told me that he knew something was going on as he watched me sitting with my eyes closed meditating that night. He said I was making minor movements with my body and would make slight sounds.
Keep in mind that I am not a psychic medium but I have received many incredible signs or what I like to call visits from heaven over the years. But I have to admit that this experience is in my top 10. So can anyone communicate with departed loved ones? Yes, we can. It comes easier to some than others but everyone is born with some level of intuitive ability. Some people develop or fine tune these capabilities and others don’t. However, the opportunity to part the veil is available to everyone.
The spirit world communicates in many ways. Most often they are not as pronounced as the experience I mentioned above but rather subtle. It’s important that we learn to trust what we are given. In Parting the Veil: How to Communicate with the Spirit World, (Visionary Living, Inc./2017) Stuart and Dean James-Foy talk about how all mediums naturally go through a doubting phrase. “You may think, ‘That’s not right,’ or, ‘No, it can’t be’ or ‘Is my mind making this up’? Messages are given for a reason. Trusting them builds trust with spirit.” The book highlights a variety of useful exercises to help people connect with spirit.
Trusting is not always easy, however. Your ego will often be there telling you something different. In my case, for example, I thought hearing My Girl was just wishful thinking. Even though intuitively I knew it was my brother in law, my ego got in the way.
Knowing the difference between the voice of your ego and the voice of your spirit takes practice and trust. But if you’re willing to take the time to listen, I promise you spirit will not disappoint.