“Change will not come if we wait for some other person or some other time. We are the ones we’ve been waiting for. We are the change that we seek.” Barack Obama
A Greek philosopher named Heraclitus wisely said, “Change is the only constant in life.” Just look around you—nothing stays the same; even the human body is in a constant state of flux as it replaces dying cells in the body.
We all know change is inevitable but that doesn’t make it easy. In fact some of us down right hate change and do everything possible to resist it and keep the status quo. It’s much easier to do things out of habit anyway. It’s much easier to do what’s familiar. Change means uncertainty and treading in unfamiliar territory. Doing things the same or out of habit means control. Daily routines make things easier. We do these routines without even having to think about them. Changing the way we do anything requires effort, time and the willingness to overcome the fear of the unknown.
That is huge hurdle for some to get past but it’s also the only way to continued growth and learning. The late Dr. Leo Buscaglia, a well-known author, teacher and lecturer, said that change was the end result of true learning. He believed only through change could we learn and experience real growth. “As experienced human beings we must certainly believe in one more thing than anything else—we believe in change,” he wrote. He went on to explain that if we don’t like where we are, we can always create a new scene.
Stepping into this new scene may no doubt be scary but it’s sometimes the only pathway to realizing new relationships, taking advantage of wonderful opportunities and truly feeling self-fulfilled and happy.
Looking back over my own life, I’ve made countless changes. I’ve realized over the years that although some were not the right decisions to be made, all were purposeful. In other words, I’ve learned from my decisions; I’ve learned from those changes. Whether or not it was the right decision for me did not matter. None were without lessons to be learned.
I was once working for a nonprofit association as Director of Communication and Editor. My job afforded me the opportunity to travel and meet wonderful people. I also loved the people that I worked with. It was my safety net away from home. Although I felt safe and secure, I felt like I needed to make a very difficult change.
This change allowed me to work independently as a communications consultant and eventually gave me the chance to realize a dream and publish my first book. I went on to have two beautiful daughters and today I’m working on my seventh title.
I’ve sometimes wondered what my life would be like today had I not taken the leap of faith and stepped out of my comfort zone. Sure, it would have been easy to stay in a job I loved and was comfortable doing. But I also know that I would have missed out on so many priceless opportunities; I would have missed out on so many beautiful memories. None would have been possible without my embracing change.
You can’t get where you want to go, however, unless you have a clear view of where you are going.
Our habits and everything we do on a daily basis literally change the very makeup of our brains. The brain is very habit driven and truthfully doesn’t care whether something is good or bad for you. It only wants to make the neural networks we use all the time stronger so that the brain can function more efficiently. But you do know what’s good for you. You do know what’s bad for you. Only you can know what changes are necessary in your life and only you can put those changes in motion.