The optimist sees the donut, the pessimist sees the hole.”
Oscar Wilde
This morning, despite the deluge of rain bucketing down from the sky—cold and unrelenting—I made my way out to run some errands and ran into the local pharmacy to pick up my prescription. Since the high winds rendered my umbrella utterly useless, I stood in front of the pharmacy counter both drenched and annoyed.
The pharmacist politely came over to assist me sporting a smile. Shaking the rain droplets from my jacket, I looked up at him, “Hello, it is so nasty and miserable out there.”
Still smiling, he looked at me and replied, “Well, it is beautiful in here.” His words instantly shook me out of my dreary mood. “I needed that,” I said returning his smile. “It is all a matter of perspective. Right?”
“Yes, it is,” he replied as he handed me my prescription. “Have a beautiful day.”
I looked at him gratefully, “Thank you, you, too.”
Your perspective in simple terms is the way you see or view something; it’s our given attitude about a particular thing or situation. When we find ourselves in negative or stressful situations, it can naturally affect our perspective. These situations create a negative bias and can cause us to zero in on all the negatives while ignoring all the positives. We will pass over all the good around us and see only the bad.
One of my favorite quotes by the late great Wayne Dyer, author, and motivational speaker, is, “If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.” Very true. The way we think and look at things not only shapes our perspective; it also profoundly shapes who we are.
There is a popular parable circulating on the internet about three bricklayers. As the story goes, after the great fire of 1666 destroyed London, a famous architect named Christopher Wren was hired to help rebuild St. Paul’s Cathedral. One day, Wren approached three working bricklayers and asked, “What are you doing?” In response, the first bricklayer said, “I’m a bricklayer. I’m working hard laying bricks to feed my family.” The second noted, “I’m a builder. I’m building a wall.” And the third replied, “I’m a cathedral builder. I’m building a great cathedral to The Almighty.”
We have three people doing the exact same thing with three entirely diverse perspectives. Although many variations can be found, the story is said to be based on fact and is used to illustrate the power of positive thinking. It shows us how our views and thoughts filter the world with our own internal biases.
As an example exercise, think of a specific color—red, white, gray or any color you’d like. Close your eyes and focus on this particular color for several minutes. Now, open your eyes and see what happens. I’m willing to bet you’ll start noticing your selected color all over the place. Have you ever noticed when you are looking to purchase a new car, you start noticing this same make and model everywhere you go?
No doubt, life can be hectic and stressful making it harder to keep things in perspective. But at the same time, it is also a constant reminder of both the importance and need for positive thinking. Remember, as you think, so you become.